It’s more than asserting yourself on someone. It is more than proving your authority. It is all about unlimited power and control that one needs, wants and acquires over another human being. Bullying is cancer of our modern society. It has so many faces, shapes and dimensions that limiting it to school is impossible. There have been cases of bullying at work, in sports teams, among siblings at home. The characters might change, the locations might change but the dark face of bullying is same in all the cases. If you look at the stats, you will surprise to see how deeply and badly bullying has affected us:
– 1 in 5 Canadian Teens have witnessed online Bullying
– 25% of kids between 12-15 have witnessed cyberbullying
– 25% of girls and 17% of boys have witnessed online harassment
As per the Canadian Institutes of Health Research (CIHR), Canada has the 9th highest rate of bullying in the 13-years-olds category on a scale of 35 countries. At least 1 in 3 adolescent students in Canada have reported being bullied recently.40% of Canadian workers experience bullying on a weekly basis
Bullying can be done on the basis of differences of class, race, religion, gender, sexuality, appearance, behavior, or ability. Every parent and guardian must keep their eyes and ears open to detect possible signs of being bullied or being a bully. Having low self-esteem or being very aggressive both are not good signals. Many parents think that their teenage son or daughter is going through a teen- phase and will be normal in few days; many times they are proven wrong.
Nothing can be more heart breaking for a parent to see their child commit suicide because some rowdy teenager likes to show off his or her aggressive quality. Rules have been put in place to reduce the potential ‘victims’ and also deter potential ‘bullies’ but we need to understand that anyone who is intoxicated with the idea of being powerful doesn’t care for the rules, the bully believes he can get away with anything because he is all powerful.
Bully is not an individual problem, it is a wider issue connected to the mental well-being of our society. Cyber form of bullying has emerged as one of the most dreaded forms of this menace. Cyberbullying is when a child or teen becomes a target of actions by others – using computers, cellphones or other devices – that are intended to embarrass, humiliate, torment, threaten or harass.
The reach of cyberbullying is far more than face-to-face bullying. A bully can reach the victim anywhere at any time through internet. The viral nature of cyberbullying makes it more difficult to control and undo the damage. Being mean and threatening through internet is cyberbullying; spreading or sharing embarrassing message about someone with the intention to harm their reputation and self confidence is cyberbullying.
Spreading awareness is the key, let’s talk about this relentlessly and promise ourselves that we will not rest until this preventable and despicable evil is uprooted from our civil society.
Ipsos Reid 2011 Survey of 416 Canadian Teenagers